Regulate - Relate - Repair: Boundaries Without Breaking Relationships
A classroom‑tested workshop that gives educators concrete steps to de‑escalate, stay regulated, and repair harm so students can return to learning.
What I Offer
I provide a practical professional development workshop for educators called “Regulate - Relate - Repair.” It helps teachers respond to challenging behavior with calm, clarity, and connection instead of power struggles.
We offer 60–90 minute sessions (virtual or on‑site), half-day and full-day trainings, and individual coaching. Staff learn a simple Three R’s framework and walk through real classroom moments so they leave with language and strategies they can use the next day, but will use throughout their career.
In these sessions, teachers will:
• Learn how to regulate themselves first in the moment.
• Use curiosity before correction to keep relationships intact.
• Repair after conflict with accountability, not shame.
• Practice a simple “Respect Reset” script to hold firm boundaries.
Why This Matters
Punishment alone often escalates behavior and damages trust. Conversation, structure, and repair restore dignity and accountability and make it more likely students actually change their behavior.
This workshop gives teachers a predictable way to respond to disruption that protects both boundaries and relationships, so classrooms feel safer and more focused.
Key outcomes:
• Fewer power struggles and repeated blow‑ups.
• Clearer, calmer responses to behavior across staff.
• Students more ready to return to learning after conflict.
The Three R’s Framework
R1: Regulate (Adult First)
Pause, lower your voice, reduce words, and, when needed, remove the audience so you can respond instead of react.
R2: Relate (Curiosity Before Correction)
Separate behavior from identity, seek understanding first, and show the student they are still welcome even when their behavior isn’t.
R3: Repair (Accountability Without Shame)
Name the impact, restate expectations, and make a simple plan forward so the student can re‑enter with dignity and responsibility.
The Respect Reset
“I always treat you with respect. You are welcome here. I need that respect reciprocated.”
Who It’s For
This workshop is a strong fit for:
• Middle and high school teachers
• Alternative and Title 1 schools
• Deans, assistant principals, and support staff who manage behavior
Participant Reviews
“Regulate was the concept that feels most usable. It can simply be how I approach and start my classes - it doesn't have to only apply when an incident occurs.”
— Teacher, New Valley High School“I really liked how we were asked about how we feel when we encounter difficult situations involving our students and sort of checking in with ourselves. That’s the kind of reflection I need to do as a teacher”
— Teacher, New Valley High School“This is the kind of PD and training that every site needs, not just once a year, but consistently. This is the mentality shift we need in education”
— Administrator, New Valley High School 
Who I am - Johnny Reyna: Artist, Educator, Advocate.
I was raised in East San Jose, and pushed through an educational system that viewed me as a defect from day one. After failing kindergarten and repeating a cycle of academic struggle for years, I dropped out of high school at eighteen. I didn’t just fail my classes though; I internalized failure as my identity. That negative self-image manifested as defiance, truancy, and a dangerous disconnect from my own potential.
My shift didn't happen in a traditional classroom—it happened behind a camera.
Discovering filmmaking reshaped my sense of belonging and led me to the community college system. It was there that I transformed from a high school dropout into a lifelong student. I realized that the person I needed back then wasn't a perfect teacher, but one who saw past my behavior to my inherent value.
Today, as a six-year veteran educator, I know the difference between a teacher who makes an impact and one who leaves a scar: it is the capacity to see a student’s humanity. My mission now is to equip professionals and organizations with the mindsets and systems necessary to truly see, respect, and empower the youth they serve.